is showing off your children acchievements around that important?

yo, its been sometime not apologizing for the hiatus cause i dun care XD.
i got this inspiration from a student of mine over kumon n another student over kumon...

i really got a SERIOUS question for parents that might read this somehow, i dunno how, yet i dun care...

is it really important that your children exceed your peers children in study?

it was my 1st day n i saw those really annoying parents(they annoyed me)...

my colleague's student, he is like primary 6(i guess), but i heard he is studying FUNCTION GRAPH(F5 Chapter 2)....

i WAS LIKE WTF?

i got a student, he is standard 3, but he is studying a standard 6 level crap...

n the mum came to me and ask, y my son still can't understand it properly...

to me, the answer is GOD DAMN OBVIOUS...

he is just 10 years old, he is not fit yet for 12 years old stuff...

so i m kind enough to LECTURE THE MOTHER in a very indirect way(i m securing m job this way)XD
1st i gave her few points

• u know there is add maths right, maths is to determine u SMART OR NOT, add maths is to DETERMINE HOW SMART ARE U
• maths need critical thinking n MATURITY to understand, he is still too young for this as it is like his 3 years later work
• i can see he ie being pressure cause he try to understand the question n yet he blank out
• the best point i think i said is this whats the point learning when he know how to do but dunno whats the point doing it

so i conclude, LET HIM GO STEADYLY, DUN EVER RUSH HIM LATER HE LOSE HIS MIND GO PANIC N OVERSTRESS, GONE

one reason he cannot understand is that, standard 6 question uses standard 6 language

eg: a car traveled 60km in 5 minutes

standard 3 won't understand the sentence after a car moves cause they serious is not in any knowledge of wtf is 60km in 5 minutes, they barely can understand the logic of distance properly la

 the mother is like, yes i know that, in my mind i m saying, u know n u still doing it, u are such a good mother

she requested to have his son to do 2X normal load to speed up the leveling process

i also told the mum, i say, u 1 him to understand, redo the question or buy a thin revision book for him, n she say, she still got other subjects to handle

she understand the point of too many work load but yet she not realizing that the child is already overloading

its like u are running a high end graphic game that require 512mb of graphic processing on a 64mb graphic card...

this type of parents are GARBAGE, no offense but i think this type of parents never think in the position of the children

they should actually try at least 1 day being their children, go school in morning, afterschool tuition, then homework, then revision... i doubt they can last 1/2 a day...

i can see somehow that the parents are indirectly forcing the children, yeap i do agree on the part where its for their own good, but do u know that the child is losing their fun n joy of being a CHILDREN

try to be high achiever on your own desire is good, but when its being forced directly or indirectly by a 2nd or 3rd party, its not good at all

beside on that fact, i 1000000% disagree on those parents mindset, cause certain part of it is for themselves, being able to lc at their peers that, " u know my son now studying advance level liau, u see he so smart" but the fact is the "son" is being forced to go that fast...

this is somehow related to the parents pride

pride is one of the 7 sins of a human n it will grow, i somehow out of boredom did a flow(very the straight forward) how this pride will grow according to this situation...

1. 1st, the parents will ask the child, NO. 1 in class ok
2. somehow get into the 1st class, its for your own good
3. No.1 in the 1st class
4. No.1 in school
5. No.1 in state
6. No.1 in nation
7. No.1 in college/uni
8. No.1 in carrier, 1st locally then globally

ignore me exaggerating but if this retarded mindset is not corrected, there will be this type of parents destroying the child's life in their own hands

and i ask one question: WTF ALL THIS HAPPEN?

a general answer i can get from aunties conversation where they compare their child's brains

• so that i can lc u at my peers, i happy u(son) should be happy, i not happy u kena nanti

so to parents out there that wish your children to be NO. 1 in something, i got a DEAD SERIOUS question for you, ARE YOU A NO.1 PARENT?

parents that give excuses like i m NO. 1 in their heart, thats more then satisfying to hear then to see

i m gonna direct back this answer to you, WHY DIDN'T YOU PUT THEM AS NO.1 IN YOUR HEART ALSO AND SAY THATS MORE THEN SATISFYING TO HEAR THEN TO SEE AT THE 1ST PLACE?! WHY HIS RESULTS AREN'T SATISFYING THAT YOU NEED IT TO BE PERFECTLY MATCHING YOUR TARGET BUT YOU YOURSELF AREN'T ACHIEVING ANY OF YOUR CHILD'S TARGET AS THE NO.1 PARENT?!

if you continue this bullshit, don't blame your child being the last descendant of for your family because he will be going all out in fulfilling your desire off him being NO.1 in everything he does...

a child that only study and do nothing besides that will EVENTUALLY becomes a NERD for sure

child is a stage in a human's life where they are suppose to have FUN

i repeat FUN, not stress due to pressure

stress is for adults, not children...

this is a statement from me,

WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE PROUD OF CHILDREN THAT CAN PLAY N STUDY ON PAR AT THE SAME TIME, NOT THOSE THAT IS IMBALANCE, SO WHAT IF HE GETS NO.1 IN STUDY, YOU SURE IN FUTURE WHEN HE WORK HE NUMBER 1 AH?

ALL WORK AND NO PLAY MAKES JACK A DULL BOY

don't parents nowadays understand this simple proverb? (ignore parents of our generation(parents that still haven reach 30)

if the only input is study, he will unintentionally create a mental block and he will start to neglect or even despise socializing...

with this, i CONFIRM you that he can't survive in the real adult world and they would be depending on their parents forever till one find day where MIRACLE( dream on ) came in for a visit and make them learn...

in my case, if i become a parents, i won't be lc-ing with his study, its nonsense, study good just give u an impression of my son can understand those irrelevant crap in textbook...

you must be FAIR enough

if your child study hard, u must ensure they play hard also, if they study less, play less

ALL WORK AND NO PLAY MAKES JACK A DULL BOY

REMEMBER?

i don't want to continue on my method to raise a child cause it will just be self-praising on how all-mighty i m in it...

main point, parents out there don't be selfish, please think in your child's position as well, are they really happy with what you thought is the best for them?

opinion from your children is valuable, we are living in a world of democracy, not autocracy...

make your child to respect you, NOT afraid of you...

all this comments are made just to express my opinion, not to point at any party or person

right or wrong are to be determine by individuals, not me only

lets us the new generation become a parent that don't only look at the studies of our children but different aspect of them as well

lets DESTROY change the stupid mindset where STUDIES > ANYTHING

comments for this can be commented below here or over the cbox, no spamming please

this is Tung signing off