today, i m gonna talk about relationship as promised...
so the topic i chose is puppy love(1 to scold/flame/watever cbox is there ->)...
i guess many of u readers out there have heard of it or even experienced it be4 :)
i had yet to have any of those experience but i suppose i can write a good review about it without the experience...
1st of all, based on wiki, puppy love is an informal term of felling of love between young people during childhood or adolescence, similar to adoring, worshipful affection that might be felt by a puppy...
to put in simple, its like a temporary feeling of like towards an opposite sex(or perhaps same sex[this is what we call homo]) that will most likely won't last long...
you see, puppy love are very common nowadays,
even in schools(co-ed) we can see couple nearly everywhere...
but, how long can they actually last?
this is a question that give suggest a strong, HELL YEAH, IT WILL LAST FOREVER at 1st... but once thing starting to get worst, NAH, IT WAS JUST FOR FUN... or WE WEREN'T FOR EACH OTHER...
is this an answer?
no, it is just an excuse used to cover up the naivety of that particular person...
based on Urban Dictionary aka urbandictionary.com,
they suggested that puppy love is also the love between a young couple within a few weeks of getting together. Not really true love, more blind affection - immature, young love or to love someone as per the 1st sight as one sees and many more...
they all have a similar meaning but in this web, they suggest love at 1st sight as a factor...
in short, love at 1st sight is basically u fall in love at a person when u look at him/her...
it is a very romantic issue in the case of the following pic...
however, love at 1st sight at suggest that the love is based on the appearance...
so, i can say that, the love was generated based on what u actually see(at the moment)/saw(current moment)...
based on mathematical reasoning...
Love at 1st sight <-> Love towards the appearance
Appearance at the moment <-> Appearance u favour
conclusion, Love at 1st sight <-> Love towards the appearance of ur favour...
so, if the appearance change, the love is gone...
in my opinion, i label love at 1st sight as unrealistic feeling of love...
u see that in this case, the love is for the outlook and not the real person...
theoretically, it means that, the love will exist as long as the appearance doesn't change...
ones changed, GONE!
Psychologist suggest that love at 1st sight depends on the psychological state at the moment. In some case we won’t even notice those charming eyes in another they can make a lasting impression on as. Also they say that it takes about 30 seconds to fall in love or precisely speaking to estimate whether the person is worth to fall in love with. By the way psychologists claim that men fall in love first.
full review on it
here
back to the topic, in thestar online, there was a mini article about it titled 'Love and limerence'...
the article actually only have 1 significant line and the rest are out of topic...
"A young person’s first romantic love; usually a short severe infatuation that fades quickly"
as u see, it also suggest that puppy won't actually last long...
however, i had seen those that actually last long and i called, ONE TRUE LOVE...
nevertheless, i had seen numerous of this puppy lovers had their relationship gone in a short while from as short as days to even years...
this is due to couples immaturity at that current stage of age...
its not that i have any discrimination on it but i find that puppy love really waste ur time, money, youth, effort and energy since most of it won't last...
and since it won't last, why have a relationship...
relationship are meant till the end of the journey, it means from coupling till marriage...
thats real relationship...
the naive in a person will cause conflict when they say, thats future, as long as we have fun now, it doesn't matter what future will happen...
thats what they think immaturely...
you see, u will have lots of fun coupling...
thats for sure, i don't and never deny it...
however, it will cause you more pain and sorrow during the break ups then the fun while coupling...
i guess some of you readers had gone through it and i know some that had gone through it...
the pain and sorrow can go till wrist cutting, OMG! whats wrong with our people in the days of modernization where they will take things not so serious...
i know that some of this relationship can actually turn into one true love, but how many can?
even friends who i know that are damn LOYAL towards the relationship use the word IF, a symbol of unsure to reply in this question...
eg, IF we can get along till long enough, we will get married.
eg, IF we can tolerate each other, we will last long.
yeah, this answer came within their real heart, the feeling of unsure within them...
there is a saying
"True love cannot be found where it truly does not exist, Nor can it be hidden where it truly does."
"You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly."
Sam Keen
therefore, need not to rush for an relationship at the early stage of life...
live on and u will meet more and more people...
and from there, u can finally find a real partner for your life...
its kaemon again, the sequel of it might come with a different title perhaps...
sayonara for now!
p.s: think before u couple!
p.s: for the couple out there, good luck in your relationship...
